“So I try to laugh about it, cover it all up with lies
I try to laugh about it
Hiding the tears in my eyes
‘Cause boys don’t cry”
Boys don’t cry – The Cure
Counselling is an opportunity to sit down with a trained listener and engage in a therapeutic relationship to explore your difficulties in your own time and at your own pace. I trained as a Person Centred Counsellor which means I work with what you bring to the room, however I have also developed my work to integrate different approaches such as CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) and solution focussed therapy, which means I may set homework! This will help you to challenge some of your ideas and beliefs that may not have been helpful.
Counselling can be challenging and scary. It can involve discussing aspects of your life that you may not has spoken about before. I may ask questions about your childhood and what that felt like for you. I may ask questions about your sex life which sometimes can feel uncomfortable. However sex is an important part of who we are and is an important part of relationships that we have. This is why I stress the importance of confidentiality and keeping you safe in the room.
I will always work in your best interests and with compassion and patience, I call this approach Piscatorial Therapy. As an angler, I like to spend my time in the peace and quiet of a pond, where I try to make a connection. For me, building the therapeutic relationship is about making a connection, it doesn’t happen overnight. Therapy takes time to work, and it is you that does the work, you that reaps the benefit. My role is to listen and offer you that safe space.
“And you finally found all your courage
To let it all go…”
Pictures of you – The Cure